FATE AFTER DIVORCE

FATE AFTER DIVORCE 

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Now a days wife's are filing 498a on husband and his family like normally we order a pizza on phone, Honorable Supreme Court of INDIA had termed Section 498a IPC as "LEGAL TERRORISM", As many wife file this cases on husband without a though on advice of increasing greedy Advocate who are having thrust for money as this section had become a extortion tool(KIND NOTE THERE ARE FEW GOOD ADVOCATE ALSO NOT ALL ARE BAD), Police jump in to conclusions with out any proper investigation though there are guidelines prescribed by Honorable Supreme Court of INDIA.  

Fate of Children in hands of Divorced Wife 

Florida Mom MURDERS HER 4 KIDS BEFORE SHOOTING HERSELF!!!!

Fatherless Children Due To Divorce

One of the saddest parts of working with families of divorce is the tragedy of fathers who have lost access to their children. Failed access has severe consequences on both father and children.

In this article I will not address the many reasons for the lack of access, as that is an extremely complicated issue, fraught with political, social and legal influences. Nor am I intending blame on either gender.

For now, however, I want to provide some very valid statistics on the subject for the purposes of opening our eyes. We all need to see what is happening, and begin to deal with it realistically and directly.

Each statistic has a number after it which is the reference number indicating the citation at the end of this article that directly applies to the particular finding. Feel free to check it out.

Children from fatherless homes account for:

63% of youth suicides 1

70% of juveniles in state-operated facilities come from fatherless homes 3

71% of pregnant teenagers 2

71% of all high school dropouts 6

75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers 7

80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger 5

85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders 4

85% of all youths sitting in prisons 8

90% of all homeless and runaway children

You might think a “loving mother” would want to protect her child and keep him from becoming one of the above statistics, but in most cases you would be wrong.

[Some] Mothers are exposing children to the above risks:

Angry mothers sabotage a father’s efforts to visit their children 9

Few children are satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers 10

The mother was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children 11

37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights 12

40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father’s visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse. 13

20% of mothers “see no value in the father`s continued contact with his

children….” 14

70% of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children 15

77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to “visit” their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of visitation interference by the mother. 16

89% of mothers don’t value their husband’s input when it comes to handling

problems with their kids 17

Non-compliance with court ordered visitation is 300% more common than noncompliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more. 18

Citations

1 US Dept. of Health & Human Services, Bureau of the Census

2 US Dept. of Health & Human Services

3 U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988

4 Center for Disease Control

5 Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26, 1978

6 National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools

7 Rainbows for all God`s Children)

8 Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992

9 Ahrons and Miller, Am. Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 63. p. 442, July

1993

10 Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Koch & Lowery, Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 50, Winter 1984

11 Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991

12 p.6, col.II, para. 6, lines 4 & 5, Census Bureau P-60, #173, Sept 1991

13 p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991

14 Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125

15 Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol

owery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984

16 Visitational Interference – A National Study” by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W. Originally published Sept. 1992

17 EDK Associates survey of 500 women for Redbook Magazine. Redbook,

November 1994, p. 36

18 Visitational Interference – A National Study” by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W. Originally published Sept. 1992